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Does anyone else feel like they have a lot but no friends at all? It's as if I know a lot of people and they're all very friendly with me but I feel like I'm no ones first choice. Anyone else feel the same?

Can we talk about "holding space"? I feel like a lot of friends, co-workers, and others come to me for advice/comfort and other things but lately, I have been feeling like I have nothing else to give and it isn't helping them or myself. How can I set up boundaries without coming off as rude or skirting any promises or responsibilities I've previously committed to?

I have been best friends with a girl for a while. We’ve hung out all of quarantine together and now we live together. We’re both friends with this other girl and recently they have been excluding me and hanging out a lot more with out me and another one of my good friends said that today she heard my roommate call me a gossip and so I was upfront with her about how I was feeling and she started to slam things and yell and told me I need to apologize to our other friend because I’ve caused her anxiety but this is also the first time I’ve heard about it. I guess I just don’t know what to do.

This is kind of rambling, but I'm glad there is a space for this: I have a small group of amazing friends, but there is something bothering me (or a few things) that I can't really talk to them about. Here's the deal: My friends are all successful. They have money, nice houses, and own their own businesses. They are also super healthy. They work out all the time and look amazing (we're in our early 40's). When we all met, I was right there with them! But a few years ago I got sick. I gained a bunch of weight because I was on steroids and a few other meds that make you gain weight. Then I got laid off twice in one year. I'm also divorced with two boys. It's so hard. I really want to feel beautiful again. I was so beautiful before this. Now every picture I see of myself makes me want to cry. Having no money is making it worse. Two of my friends just drove up to Colorado and rented a cabin for a week. We've all been quarantined, so they just wanted to get out of the heat. No one even asked if I wanted to go. They also had a conversation recently about how they all put each other as executers on each other's Will. Again, I was not a part of that. It was the first I'd heard of it. I hate feeling pitied and/or left out. When I do try to open up it's obvious they don't get it. I've made so many bad decisions that started with marrying my ex. I feel like they did everything right. I'm just sad and feeling isolated by my situation.

Hi all, I have a question for any of you who might have already or might be currently navigating a similar situation in your lives. I have just graduated college & have moved to a new place. All the structures that used to make it so easy to meet people & make friends have dissolved before my eyes. Do any of you feel this way? Is this a common experience for those of you who can relate to this circumstance? And what does it look like to connect with new people for you? I have been connecting through friends of friends but am nervous about meeting up with them. What do you all thinK? (I apologize for the word vomit but would appreciate your feedback!!) Thanks, ladies (:

I have been feeling very irritable and stressed out lately. I feel like I can not chill, like at all. My roommate recently asked me to do something a different way in the house, and I got really annoyed. She was only trying to communicate, but I got triggered by feeling like I was being talked down to. I do feel like this often, how do you all just breathe and let the little things go? I dont wan to stress out my friends anymore by talking to them about it, but also dont want to put myself down for feeling this way.

Looking for a ride or die friend or friends! I kinda miss having someone to turn to for advice and just talk with for hours on end. 🥰

Oh my goodness. I am having quite a shift with a friend right now. Testing the grounds has shown that the power dynamics don't work for me. I really love her a lot but this thing is a problem and I truly think it is predicated on her privilege. She has never said "sorry" to me and most recently when I advocated for something I wanted in the relationship after having it done it her way for like ever...all of a sudden it's a non-starter. I don't mind seeing this as it is but I am not sure how to speak truth to pwer and if it is even necessary because I somehow know where it will go...sadly. This is a 15 year relationship and I want to communicate the hard things with grace but I am fairly clear that she is not ready for the dynamcis to change. She was comfy with them how they were as evidenced by her reponse to the most recent ripple and rock in the formerly steady boat ride we were on.